Jay told me I should join the dancing. “Don’t worry about other people. Nobody’s watching.”

People who say that know damn well everyone’s watching them when they dance. Jay was an amazing dancer, stepping out confidently even when the steps were wrong. It was a delight and a torment to watch as dancers took their turn in the middle of the set. I coveted those hips.

The music lifted my spirits. I sensed Jay’s relief and realised the shie...